One of the things that coaching and playing poker have in common is pressure. You constantly have to be at your very best. There simply is no way to be successful and reach the top if you consistently are less than your best. I feel like there are common threads in why people become successful in poker and or coaching (or really anything for that matter). Hard work, studying, reading, learning, getting experience, watching those better than you, etc., are all things that help people become successful in poker and or coaching. However, one that I have found in many poker players that are successful that I try to use in coaching is the yearning to want to be proven wrong.
Now, I am not sure anyone has ever put it like that but its something that I think might be among the best ways to improve yourself. Basically, what I am saying is that everyone should want someone to prove them wrong about what they believe. Now, why is that you say? Well, if someone can successfully prove to you that your belief is wrong then you are becoming better. For example, if I believe that man-to-man defense is simply the best defense to play then thats great. However, if there is actually a better defense to play I WANT someone to come along and prove to me that I am in fact wrong and should be doing something better.
Poker players are great at this. They go on forums posting hands, theories, etc., looking for people to correct their play and tell them they were wrong so they can improve. Sadly this doesn't happen in the real world all that much. People are far to stubborn and don't like anyone to ever tell them they are wrong. They stick to awful theories or strategies in their lives because they do not want to admit they actually were wrong.
One last point on this as well. Something I cannot stand at all is having a discussion with someone who makes arguments with no evidence or facts of any kind. I am normally open to anyone's opinion on anything from Religion to Sports to Poker to Music to Movies to Politics, as long as they can present me some type of backing to their argument. This just seems to not happen so much anymore. People seem to be losing the ability to think rationally or logically. At least around me. All I ask is a little evidence and facts. However, inevitably what happens is that interupt them, tell them their postion is worthless without evidence, and politely ask them to refrain from disagreeing with me unless they have something worth while to say.
Probably have another story later...